“You think about stuff too much. Thinking is not good for you. You’ll end up unhappy with your lot.”
Are stupid people happier than smart ones? And are there ranges of happiness and contentment that apply to those, regardless of the intellectual lot, who actually think or don’t think?
I am probably talking about existentialism here, there, and everywhere, but this state of happiness is, will, and will always be a mute point with me. The truth of it is that I do not have a clue what HAPPINESS really is.
I was brought up with all this stuff about finding oneself, finding peace of mind, and finding some way of being satisfied with life.
Everybody was on a quest. I searched day after day for four-leaf clovers in the hope that they would help me to find that pot of gold which was needed to bring about this blessed state of happiness. I never found one; not one. But I did find lots of other things and the most important of these was to not tread in dog-shit. Perhaps the search for happiness has kept me relatively faeces-free. Shit don’t stick if you walk with your eyes on the ground.
That stuff up there that John Lennon wrote, I was looking at it with a cynical eye and then abruptly halted.
“I told them they didn’t understand life.”
Something there rang with me. John Lennon wanted to be happy when he grew up. This either meant that he was not enjoying a state of happiness as a child or that he had the insight to see that many adults were not, in fact, happy.
So much of what we are told relates to those fleeting moments of happiness that come in the blink of an eye, a joke, a holiday, a stiff drink, buying a new car. It may even come through the achievements of others, sporting teams, music, books. Again, these are transitory and ephemeral. I have read that happiness is being able to manage the ratio of negative feelings against positive ones. The world can be a hard place, so if we are living by a credo that tells us that we ought to search for eternal happiness, we are morally and ethically at fault. These words below struck me a poignant:
“Someone once asked me what I regarded as the three most important requirements for happiness. My answer was: A feeling that you have been honest with yourself and those around you; a feeling that you have done the best you could both in your personal life and in your work; and the ability to love others.”
I have tablets that impact upon the chemicals produced by my body. They regulate and mitigate whilst helping me not to stagnate.