Wounds of Gold

Gold Marks The Spot

When the Japanese mend something that is broken, they aggrandise the damage by filling it with gold. Their belief is that something that has survived such a trauma, and has history, ought to be celebrated and prized. In the west, a lot of us tend to feel ashamed of something that is now not perfect. If it is ourselves that has been damaged, we keep it away from the sight of others; even from ourselves.

Somebody was talking about mental health issues the other day and they mentioned the word RESILIENCE. I don’t like that word as I think it is used incorrectly. In the world of work and education, resilience is used as a coping mechanism, something that enables us to bounce back from adversity.

Adversity is a fact of life. Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes. Psychologists have identified some of the factors that make a person resilient, among them a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback.

Psychology Today

The article then goes on to discuss they way in which resilience can be taught. It involves learning strategies, regulating emotions (both up and down), and removing oneself from oneself in order to gain a better view of events.

I think that the last point is all important as we are being asked to separate our thinking from our emotions in order to be objective and not irrational. It sounds like the monkey, our primal self, that governs so much of or emotional responses, can be taught how to sit in the chair and think it through; before throwing its bananas at the world.

I tend to like the monkey. Okay he can be disruptive, but he sometimes has a point.

Throwing ones bananas away tends to clear the stall for more. It’s like clearing the decks before the ship is completely weighed down.

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